A poem by Rumi- A MUST read!

I just love this poem. It hits my heart and soul and allows me to own my flaws without guilt or sadness. We are all human and as human beings, it behooves us to accept ourselves as who we are. Not easy, I know. When I am feeling down or sorry for myself for whatever reason, (at the moment it’s because I’m not doing enough to move forward TODAY and that is really pretty trivial) I read this poem and it lifts my spirits. I now pass it on to you. I hope it resonates with some part of you! Enjoy….

This being human is a guesthouse. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain all! Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still, treat each guest honorably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight. The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in. Be grateful for whomever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.

Toxic products and your body- what you shouldn’t do!

Toxin Awareness

The latest research is something to take seriously.! Toxins are playing a role in our health and are particularly being linked to cancers.! In 1900, between 1 in 1000 to 1 in 100 people could expect to have cancer in their lifetime.! In the year 1997, it was 1 in 3 people; and in 2002, it’s 1 in 2 people in America.! The predictions are that by the year 2030, every American can expect to contract cancer in their lifetime! Scary stuff!

[Good Resources at Amazon: Home Safe Home! by Debra Lynn Dadd; What Your Doctor May Not Tell

You About Breast Cancer by Dr. John Lee; Hormone Balance: A Matter of Life & Health by Kris Klitzke]

Prevention and education/awareness are key! I am so into this and want to share it with you  to help educate you about toxic substances that may be in your home or in products you use- not to mention animal testing and ingredients! There are many books and other resources available on this topic and I encourage you to conduct some of your own research.

The Personal Care and Cosmetic Industry cannot be left out of the concern when it comes to toxins. There are ingredients in mainstream cosmetics and personal care that you can avoid. It’s important that you read labels on the products you use/purchase!

Some typical toxic  ingredients are: Mineral Oil, Petroleum Jelly, Paraffin Wax, Beeswax and something that is called ‘Natural Ingredients’ which is really Tallow ( boiled dead animals taken from the pound). Really horrific and totally unnecessary  stuff!

Our skin is our largest organ so why not do what we can to preserve and respect in. If we can CONTROL this,  then we should. And that’s what I do. I encourage you to do the same. Let’s be healthy together!

8 ways to sleep well!

I was interviewed by my NLP teacher about my sleeping strategy. I never really thought about it as a ‘strategy’; It just came naturally. I love sleep. I love getting into bed after a full day of activity where I  just allow my body to detox and recharge for about 7 hours. Sleep is so important to our health and well being- just think about how you feel when you’re deprived of it. Crankiness, frustration, short temper are all very good possibilities in store for you the next day not to mention lack of focus, creativity and weight gain. I personally need to feel in control and positive during the course of the day so I do what I must to get the job done. I need my sleep. Here’s my strategy:

  1. As soon as I get home (if I’m in for the night and not expecting company), I immediately get into my comfy clothes. For me, those are yoga pants, camisole with shelf bra and long cotton tee shirt- is that too much info? This gets me into relaxation mode.
  2. I wash my face (with my Arbonne products- all vegan, toxic free skin care). I feel clean, fresh and have begun the detox from the day.
  3. I prepare my coffee for the next day  so I don’t have to think about anything in the morning except pressing the ‘brew’ button. Doing this mundane routine clears my head.
  4. Establish when I need to get up and set my mind to getting into bed at the right time so that I have 7 hours of clock time.
  5. I have nice sheets. Freshly washed ones are the best but obviously the likelihood of having that everyday slim to none. But I do like cotton sheets, 400 thread count is good. You  don’t have to spend a lot of money on bedding- I get mine at Target and they are quite nice and work perfectly well.
  6. If I’m not THAT tired but know the witching hour is soon approaching, I will read in bed. I usually last about 15 minutes before my eyes close.
  7. If I don’t feel like reading, I will get under the covers, turn the lights out and think about the day or go to a future event (visualization) that makes me happy.
  8. I take 5 (or more if needed) deep breaths and appreciate the bed. I focus on my breath, not on the stress of the days events.

You can do any and all of these things to help you sleep. Embrace it, enjoy it and good night!

Going with the gut!

I am a gut instinctual person. Actually I think we all are, some of us just choose to either heed the intuitive advise and/or warning and in turn it leads us in the right or wrong direction. If we dismiss it as irrational where there is no logic or proof, then we may very well pay the price for our ‘rational’ behavior. I was thinking about this because I am working with a web designer. I found this person and his company thru a Google search (after looking at many sites) and I just got a good vibe from the site- let’s call him OS. I liked the layout and their portfolio and just the ‘feel’ of it. So I called the number. It rang and rang and no answer. I tried a few times but to no avail, still no answer. So I wrote them a message thru the site but didn’t hear back (Bear in mind, it was Monday morning and people are still adjusting to the day after the weekend so I figured they were just busy and would get back to me at some point soon). Meanwhile I opened up one of the sites in their portfolio which appealed to me (I had been looking at many sites in integrative health to see what was out there). I wanted to see who the web designers were for the sites I liked (noted at the bottom of the 1 page) and in my quest for the ideal amalgam of all of the sites I had seen, I forgot I had opened up the one from OS. So I look at the bottom of that 1st page and I see a designer I will call AD. AD’s site was identical to OS’s site with just minor differences. I thought this was odd (I still didn’t make that connection that it came from the same site). So I called that number which was a different and out of state number and OS answered. Bizarre! OK so he solved the mystery- they are the same company but just hadn’t integrated the sites into one. He had gotten my message and was meaning to get back to me but yes, monday was crazy.
So OS and I spoke- I liked him. It was really that simple. We discussed scope, pricing (half paid now and half paid at launch) , timeline, etc and I agreed to work with him. The check was in the mail that day and I got started on my content etc. as per our discussion. Only until yesterday did I realize I had no documentation on our transaction. He could have taken my money and disappeared (bear in mind we had been in communication almost everyday with back and forth info and he even helped walk me thru getting my domain name set up). But still, I sort of went into semi panic mode and lectured myself on being so trusting. Yet at the same time, I knew all was fine- I would just ask him for the invoice etc for his services which I did yesterday. This morning I got a nice note from him with the invoice along with his request for another day or 2 to send me the 1st draft. My gut is right and I even feel strongly that my site will be absolutely perfect for me – well maybe with a little tweaking:-)
So the moral of this story is ‘ go with your gut but still get documentation’!
When my site is launched, I will let you all know. I’m very very excited!!!

Good morning Saturday…

Hi All:
I just got back from the gym; had a decent workout. Not the best I’ve had, but I feel good. 40 minutes of medium-high intensity cardio and some overall body work with free weights and of course abs and stretching.I just finished eating my egg whites, raw sheep milk cheese and artichoke scrambled eggs with 2 brown rice cakes so I am good for quite a while. I’m heading up to Connecticut to see my friend and celebrate her 50th birthday – it should be quite a party! And now, I must prepare…

Hello 1 visitor:

Hi there everyone… Well it seems I had 1 , yes 1 visitor yesterday. That’s pretty exciting considering no one knows I exist yet. Well one person does.
I haven’t written in a few days. I got bogged down with ‘stuff’ and couldn’t focus on writing. I’m working on my website and I am very excited about it. Scared, nervous, excited! My new Domain name is holistichealingbydesign.com! I am working with a web designer who I like and I know will make me a beautiful site. Stay tuned.
I am still tweaking the verbiage, my services, etc and how I charge for them but that will work itself out soon enough. I was looking at other wellness sites just to see what’s out there and I have to say, although the practitioners sound impressive, their websites weren’t. I would think they would want something inviting and warm, zen like and calming. I didn’t really find that in my search. I guess I am more esthetically aware than the norm. I am sure that mine will convey my personal gestalt and will invite you in. You will see me soon enough!

More to come but for right now, I ‘m beat….

Dear Diary:

This is how I feel. I am writing in my diary; the only major difference is that it’s sent out to the universe. I am beginning to love it and although it may seem that my verse is not all too exciting at the moment, you’ll see (if you stick around) that it will get better. Be patient but please stay. I want you to accompany me on my journey! I am just getting the hang of this and need to work out the kinks of my personal writing style and how I want to share with you. I KNOW that what I write in this forum and how we communicate back and forth will prove to be enlightening. I am here to share my wisdom, knowledge and vulnerability and with that, we will both learn and grow. OK, so that’s that.
Now about last nite…
So I had my date (this was a blind date thru the on-line method- website not to be named). Well I do have to say he looked like his picture which was a relief. And yes, he was chatty as usual which was no surprise. But sheesh, there was no censoring, no filter. Whatever inappropriate thought came into his mind he blurted out of his mouth. Hey at least I knew what he was thinking. He was just a little crude and shared way too much information about personal history in relationships and how we would be if we were in one together. Whoa dude! It’s OK to be quiet and just think those thoughts, really- no need to reveal them. Ok, so that was one thing. He also had no gentlemanly ways (although he did pay for everything which is a must for a 1st date); he walked through the doors first, didn’t even get out of the car when I was coming to meet him, no opening the car door even though he was right there. Come on, you’re 58- You should know better! And then there was the political debate. Now I do not like political ‘discussions’, I don’t think much gets resolved because the 2 parties in that heated argument are pretty much set in their political ways- either you’re left, right or center. Which was the case with us last nite (Details to remain nameless) and I was not agreeing with his point of view. I was annoyed which I’m pretty sure was exacerbated by his verbal diarrhea during the course of the evening – my patience was wearing thin and it was time to go home. Needless to say he wants to see me again and although I said yes, when he calls me (which he will- everyday if I allowed it; he has no boundaries) I will have to tell him that I don’t think we are well suited for each other, no details, just please accept it and let’s move on. Wish me luck. He is actually a very nice person, just not right for me. I look at these experiences as a way to get closer to what I DO want. Trial and error. It’s all good!
Until next time…